Happiness is in our hands...

Six months after marrying John C.Maxwell, Margaret Maxwell knew that her husband wasn’t going to make her happy. She found out that the only person that could make her happy was herself and that her husband can add immeasurably to that.

That got me into thinking. When we put our happiness in someone else’s hands, instead of taking full control of it, we will definitely be frustrated. Happiness is individual, what makes me happy, doesn’t necessarily make others happy.

When we depend on others to give us happiness, and we don’t feel happy, the blaming game starts. Trust me. I have first hand experience in this. Instead of working out to find that happiness together, I blame him for not doubling the effort to MAKE SURE I am happy. How can I be so profoundly dumb? He has set a big picture for us, all I need to do is to trust him and work with him to make that our reality.

I know I’m not the only person who thinks that my happiness is determined to whom I marry or associate myself with. I seriously think that it’s high time that we change that thought and decide that happiness is in our own hands. And let’s go from there. Let's work with your spouses to find your happiness together.

It’s not too late. It’s never to late to strive for the better. Don’t tell yourself you’re too old for this, or too set in your ways or too deep in shit. Have faith and have confidence in yourself.

“The mind is an enormously powerful machine; it has a remarkable capacity to convince us of whatever we want to believe.” – Erik Weihenmayer, the world’s leading blind athlete and the only blind person in history to reach the world’s seven summits.